The beauty of Magnatune.com

By admin On August 30th, 2010 in Meditation, Ruminations /

I am sitting here listening to Jami Sieber’s haunting cello and vocals. I listened to her while I was meditating today as well. I find I am in an altered place and it has helped ebb my grumpy mood. I am feeling a peace that has eluded me over the last 12 hours.

I am reminded of how much I have come to appreciate music in my life. I did not grow up listening to much music. I have attention issues so song lyrics normally distract me. However, ambient music helps my mind and heart to soar. Sometimes it feels as if the right music is the soundtrack to my life.

Also from Magnatune, I love Ehren Starks and Rob Costlow (piano) and Suzanne Teng (flute) immerse me in luscious textures of familiar magic.

I encourage you to explore Magnatune and find out if there is transformative music for you as well. The music  spans from pop and rock to ambient and world music. I can listen to any album I wish. I have subscribed since it allows me to download any album from the site in a number of different formats.

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Why It’s Bad To Be Normal

By admin On August 2nd, 2010 in Ruminations /

What is normal? Is it good to be normal? Why do I spend so much time and energy worried about whether I meet some kind of standard that is called “normal”?

I want to explore this idea this week. As I pondered this, I did some searching on the term “Why be normal?” When I did, I came across a presentation by Alvin Day. I don’t know who he is or what he stands for, but his presentation included a segment I transcribed below:

“You were born to fly. When you are born to fly, nothing else will satisfy. If you happen into the space of average, you will be so miserable, even with all of the money in the world. I’m not normal. I really am not. Ask my wife, I’m strange. All of my friends are a little odd. Do you know why? Because the word normal, to me, belongs in the same sentence as regular, ordinary, average, and mediocre. Those of you who study mathematics and statistics know that the word comes from the normal distribution curve. You know that thing. The ones on the edge are really wonderful or they’re really terrible. In the middle they cluster as the cloud. The ‘ordinary ones’ are not really ordinary. They think that way because someone shackled them to the tent pole after domesticating them. As children they dreamed in technicolor and now all they see is black and white.”

There is so much to consider in this. There is a powerful drive to try to be “normal”. Increasingly, however, this term means less and less. It is like the observation that when driving on the highway anyone driving faster than me is a maniac and anyone driving slower is an idiot. One thing I do recognize as I journey back from the edge, I am not the best standard on which to base reality.

What are your thoughts on “normal”?

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Now that was fun

By admin On July 26th, 2010 in Ruminations, Video /

I had a great weekend. I hope you did too. As I journey back from the edge, I have been working on having more fun. I often am perplexed as to what I really would enjoy doing. This past weekend, I met some new friends in Columbus and then came back to Akron for some more adventures. I got together with some other folks and we just hung out. I capped the night off with going to see the movie Salt alone. The combination of being with friends, travel, and taking in a movie was a joyful experience.

I got to thinking and decided fun and playfulness would be a good topic for this week. You may have noticed that I post a lot of presentation from TED (a conference on Technology, Entertainment, and Design). It is simply because they consistently turn-out some of the most interesting talks by some incredible people. Below you will find a presentation by Stuart Brown who is the founder of the National Institute for Play. In the presentation he explores the importance of play in all aspects of personal and social life. It’s as good a place as any to begin exploring this rich topic.

What do you do for fun? Have you discovered/rediscovered your playful side? I’d love to hear your thoughts

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Slowness

By admin On July 19th, 2010 in Ruminations, Simplify, goals /

Maybe the reality of the “slow movement” just hasn’t gotten around to me yet. In the video below, Carl Honore explains the need and the outcomes related to embracing my inner tortoise.

At my last corporate job, I burned out. I Was traveling, planning, selling, and all of the other hundred things that comes with working for a small company. Eventually, I just couldn’t do it anymore and I physically and emotionally collapsed. I am still journeying back from that edge and am stronger for it.

I have been getting involved in several projects lately that include going to grad school and starting a business. I have been finding that I’ve been getting back on the treadmill. This video reminded me about the need to have times in my life when I slow down. Every moment does not have to be full of productivity and planning. In fact, it helped me to remember that I am much more creative when I embrace slowness.

Let me know what you think of the video. Specifically, what do you think of slowness? Do it seem to have a value?

The slow movement

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Friends

By admin On July 12th, 2010 in Quotes, Ruminations /

I spent time with friends last weekend. It was a coming home. I was welcomed into the family. I was snuggled and jumped on by the kids and caught up with my my friend and his wife. I’ve known him for 25 years but had not been in touch for years. He reached out to me a year ago and we have gotten together every couple of months.

It was great to play with the kids, sit up late and talk, play cribbage, watch the World Cup, drink some beer, eat the best barbecued chicken I’ve ever had.

The weekend was a reminder of a few things I need to remember as I come back from the edge:

  1. It’s okay to let myself be loved
  2. I enjoy kicking back and drinking a beer
  3. I love to play games (in this case cribbage)
  4. I appreciate close male friendships
  5. Someone can know all about me and still accept me

It was a great weekend. As I enter back into the daily grind, the weekend continues to be a much needed tonic.

“A friend is someone who understands your past, believes in your future, and accepts you just the way you are” ~ Unknown

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The source of freedom

By admin On July 8th, 2010 in Quotes, Ruminations /

I may give the impression that the human being is completely and unavoidably influenced by his surroundings. (In this case the surroundings being the unique structure of camp life, which forced the prisoner to conform his conduct to a certain set pattern.) But what about human liberty? Is there no spiritual freedom in regard to behavior and reaction to any given surroundings? Is that theory true which would have us believe that man is no more than a product of many conditional and environmental factors-be they of a biological, psychological or sociological nature? Is man but an accidental product of these? Most important, do the prisoners’ reactions to the singular world of the concentration camp prove that man cannot escape the influences of his surroundings? Does man have no choice of action in the face of such circumstances?

We can answer these questions from experience as well as on principle. The experiences of camp life show that man does have a choice of action. There were enough examples, often of a heroic nature, which proved that apathy could be overcome, irritability suppressed. Man can preserve a vestige of spiritual freedom, of independence of mind, even in such terrible conditions of psychic and physical stress.

We who lived in concentration camps can remember the men who walked through the huts comforting others, giving away their last piece of bread. They may have been few in number, but they offer sufficient proof that everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms – to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.

And there were always choices to make. Every day, every hour, offered the opportunity to make a decision, a decision which determined whether you would or would not submit to those powers which threatened to rob you of your very self, your inner freedom; which determined whether or not you would become the plaything of circumstance, renouncing freedom and dignity to become molded into the form of the typical inmate.

Seen from this point of view, the mental reactions of the inmates of a concentration camp must seem more to us than the mere expression of certain physical and sociological conditions. Even though conditions such as lack of sleep, insufficient food and various mental stresses may suggest that the inmates were bound to react in certain ways, in the final analysis it becomes clear that the sort of person the prisoner became was the result of an inner decision, and not the result of camp influences alone. Fundamentally, therefore, any man can, even under such circumstances, decide what shall become of him – mentally and spiritually. He may retain his human dignity even in a concentration camp.

From Man’s Search for Meaning
by Viktor Frankl

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7 elements of ultimate freedom

By admin On July 7th, 2010 in Ruminations, recommendation /

I am not one to link to another blog post, but I am going to make an exception here. Alex Shalman has a blog post that really got me thinking. It is really just the beginning of an important conversation (series of conversations). He states:

In this life I am free. How is that possible? How can that be when the laws of government and gravity, and the need for food, love, and oxygen bind me? The freedom lives in a place called my mind – boy doesn’t that sound weird?

You will find the remainder of his post at Alex Shalman.com

Let me know what you think.

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What is the correct measure of happiness?

By admin On July 6th, 2010 in Ruminations, Video /

This video deals with measuring what counts. Speaker Chip Conley poses important questions about our society and our lives.

Let me know what you think

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Small is the new big

By admin On June 30th, 2010 in Communication, Ruminations, Simplify, Video /

This video got me thinking. . .

If small changes yield large changes in organizations, maybe it is true in my life. Maybe I am looking for big differences in my life to come from significant changes. The changes could be moving to a different part of the country or world, changing jobs, getting married/divorced/single again/living together, making a lot of money, immersing my life in art. Maybe the reality is the largest changes come from small acts such as keeping a gratitude journal, 10 minutes of meditation each day, walking a few times a week, sitting outside for a few minutes a day. Maybe my life is like a ship with a rudder. Small changes to the rudder brings about substantial changes in course.

It’s something to think about at least.

“Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out.” Robert Collier via @mencobabelajar

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What clowns have taught me

By admin On June 29th, 2010 in Ruminations /

My Dad died in March. I had written this the year before he died. I’m so glad I shared it with him. . .

Without further ado:

“I was raised by a clown. A real honest to goodness clown. My Dad is currently the Headmaster of the Ohio College of Clowning Arts. Why is this important?

I have learned some important lessons from him:

Always look for a used tuxedo shop, great deals can be had there.
~The overlooked and cast-off can be a treasure-trove of possibilities.
It takes a minimum of an hour and a half to put on your full outfit and make-up.
~It takes a lot of hard work to be creative.
Who says the ‘D’ in Rufus D. Dufus can’t stand for Clyde?
~You can make your own rules.
When you are with your audience you are always the clown.
~You represent your company, even when you think you are alone.
Good clown shoes cost a lot of money.
~Quality isn’t free, nor should it be.
Some kids and adults hate clowns.
~You can’t please everyone and you shouldn’t even try.
Always wear cool underwear – you never know when you’ll need to drop trow.
~When they catch you with your pants down you can still give them a good show.
Some people ridicule you as a clown.
~It doesn’t matter what THEY think. It matters what you think as well as the one who hired you.
Lastly, sometimes it take a person hiding behind a mask to reveal what is true, honest, and just darn funny.

I have not stayed current with my clown training. I no longer can safely eat fire. I can juggle (but am very rusty), and I haven’t put on a clown outfit in years. Still the simple lessons taught to me by my Dad and the hundreds of clowns that have worked with him have taught me some very profound lessons.”

I was raised by a clown. A real honest to goodness clown. My Dad is currently the Headmaster of the Ohio College of Clowning Arts. Why is this important?

I have learned some important lessons from him.

      • Always look for a used tuxedo shop, great deals can be had there.

              • The overlooked and cast-off can be a treasure-trove of possibilities.

      • It takes a minimum of an hour and a half to put on your full outfit and make-up.

              • It takes a lot of hard work to be creative.

      • Who says the ‘D’ in Rufus D. Dufus can’t stand for Clyde?

              • You can make your own rules.

      • When you are with your audience you are always the clown.

              • You represent your company, even when you think you are alone.

      • Good clown shoes cost a lot of money.

              • Quality isn’t free, nor should it be.

      • Some kids and adults hate clowns.

              • You can’t please everyone and you shouldn’t even try.

      • Always wear cool underwear – you never know when you’ll need to drop trow.

              • When they catch you with your pants down you can still give them a good show.

      • Some people ridicule you as a clown.

              • It doesn’t matter what THEY think. It matters what you think as well as the one who hired you.

      • Lastly, sometimes it take a person hiding behind a mask to reveal what is true, honest, and just darn funny.

I have not stayed current with my clown training. I no longer can safely eat fire. I can juggle (but am very rusty), and I haven’t put on a clown outfit in years. Still the simple lessons taught to me by my Dad and the hundreds of clowns that have worked with him have taught me some very profound lessons.

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